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Surprise match

Since ThruLines appeared, a small group of descendants of James Budden and Mary Littlefield, my great x5 grandparents, has been building up. The Buddens are a West Sussex family and if I have the right marriage, Mary is from Hambledon just over the border into Hampshire. The matches are only small and match either my paternal aunt, or my father and sometimes me or my brother. The cMs total is small enough not to show up on Shared Matches so without ThruLines I would probably have missed them.

I had noticed in passing that one of their granddaughters, Harriet, had married a Larkham which is not the most usual spelling but was the spelling used by elderly friends of my mother many moons ago. Les and Win Larkham, as I knew them, were a big part of The Grayshott Stagers, an amateur dramatic group on the NE Hampshire/SW Surrey border. We lived in Grayshott between 1958 and 1962 and my mother  joined the group and appeared on stage in Grayshott Village Hall with them several times until my parents left the village for Headley and later left the area altogether. Ten years later, when I started teaching locally, I also joined them and appeared in some productions.

Yesterday, another match came up who was also descended from Harriet Budden and John Larkham. When I was adding the latest match to the family tree, I noticed a Leslie Dalton Larkham and while I was checking the various records etc. to make sure I was putting accurate data on to the tree, I also investigated him. I initially dismissed him as being the wrong person as the Les Larkham I knew was married to Winifred and I couldn’t a civil marriage record of this Leslie marrying a Winifred for a first, second or even a later marriage and the only wife I found was Edith N Gibbons. I didn’t look very hard as It wasn’t that important. I had noticed though that he had died in the registration district which covered that part of Surrey so thought I would come back later. I was looking for something else about my new DNA match’s family on a different site and spotted another record for their marriage and Edith’s middle initial was listed as  W – and further searching showed that her middle name was Winifred … they had married in 1930 in Ealing.

So it seems that Leslie is my paternal 4th cousin twice removed. The other Grayshott/Headley connections on my tree are not from that part of the family. Leslie is part of my Budden/Adams/Reed family that moved up to London from West Sussex, the other Grayshott/Headley connections are with the Elkins/Hart/Taphouse/Lewcock family which moved from Hampshire up to London via Farnham in Surrey:

From St Pancras, Chichester to St Pancras, London.

Farnham families

 

 

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