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Week 2: Favourite Photograph

This is a hard one. Should it be the picture of Sarah Jane Tompkins née Godfree, a maternal great x2 grandmother, which I see every day as it is hanging over my mantlepiece? She also appears at the top of every page of this website.

Perhaps it could be the group one from my paternal great grandparents, William and Kate Bradley, Diamond Wedding Anniversary Party where I am centre stage sitting on my mothers’ lap next to the happy couple?

Or maybe the picture of the double wedding in September 1890 in front of Aveley Hall?

Perhaps the glass one of my great grandmother, Susie Gillett with her nurse, from 1863?

Double Wedding. Aveley Hall. September 1890.

I think it has to be the third one. I vividly remember Granny showing me the picture as a young child and her telling me the story behind it and in part this is why I became interested in researching my family history. Thanks to her, whose parents’ wedding it was, I know who all the people are and have since worked out where they fit into the tree apart from one person, who I am told Granny referred to as “the interloper” – whether she meant anything derogatory or just because he was not family, I have no idea. When she died we came across the newspaper cuttings about the wedding too and writing this up will spur me on to transcribing those one day. 

Girls from left to right:
Florence Tompkins – Osborne’s half-sister. (Emma’s daughter. Never married. Was known as Aunt Floss.)
Can’t place her.
Frances (Fanny) de Fraine – Tom’s sister. (Married Cecil Knight in 1909.)
Katie Tompkins – Osbornes’ half-sister. (Emma’s daughter. Married Herbert Manning in 1907.)

Men standing behind left to right:
George de Fraine – Tom’s brother. (Became proprietor of the Bucks Herald.)
Herbert (Bert) de Fraine – Tom’s brother. Worked at the Bank of England.
George Parrot – “an interloper”
Joseph Tompkins – Osborne and Nellie’s brother. 

Bridal party left to right:
Ada de Fraine – Nellie’s bridesmaid. (Tom’s sister. Became Mrs Arthur Barton. Their daughter married Guy Dodwell and went to the USA.)
Mary Tompkins – Nellie’s bridesmaid. (Sister to Nellie and Osborne, married Henry Miles, brother of Arthur, and went to Canada.)
George Turner de Fraine – Tom’s father. (Bucks Herald )
Mrs George de Fraine (Henrietta) – Tom’s mother.
Rosa Ellen (Nellie) Tompkins – Bride. (Daughter of John Tompkins and Emma’s sister Sarah.)
Thomas Turner de Fraine – Groom. (Son of George Turner and Henrietta de Fraine.)
Susan Gillett – Bride. (Stepdaughter of Emma Tompkins née Godfree from her first marriage to John Gillett. The Gillett Spoons)
Osborne Tompkins – Groom. (Son of John Tompkins and Emma’s sister Sarah.)
Emma Tompkins – Osborne and Nellie’s stepmother and maternal aunt
John Tompkins – Osborne and Nellie’s father.
Emily Brookes – Susan’s bridesmaid. (Niece of Emma Tompkins née Godfree.)
Clara Hambidge – Susan’s bridesmaid. (Niece of Emma Tompkins née Godfree. Daughter of Robert Hambidge, Ascott Martyrs.)

Standing at the back in front of the porch:
Auntie Dolly – (wife of Godfree Tompkins)
Godfree Tompkins – (Osborne and Nellie’s brother. Gave Susan away at the wedding)
Arthur Miles – husband of Annie.
Annie Miles – (Osborne and Nellie’s sister)
Mrs Robert Tompkins (Louisa)
Robert Tompkins – brother of John Tompkins. (Auctioneer of Reading.)
Albert Tompkins – Osborne’s brother.

“This was compiled by (Molly) Kathleen Mary de Fraine née Tompkins, younger daughter of Osborne and Susan.”

She did not know how some of the younger girls were related but I managed to track them down and as I was adding some of the relationships to Granny’s comments just now, I realised that I have DNA matches with descendants of Ada de Fraine so I must contact them and see if they have this picture!

 

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